Sheri and I are getting back on track with the retelling of our relationship. After Lake George in 2008 for my 25th birthday we kind of lost steam and pretty much forgot about a lot that went on in our relationship. So I have gone back in my blog that I write in on the regular to find inspiration to write. I found an entry that I wrote actually this exact date two years ago about one of Sheri's ex-girlfriends and I thought Hey, why not. I can write about EG (at Sheri's request her name has been changed so EG stands for Ex-Girlfriend)
When Sheri was in her early twenties EG and her worked together much like Sheri and I did. She was the first girl Sheri was ever with and they were together for about two years traveling and being free. Through the course of time they started fighting (over the same.exact.things Sheri and I have fought about) and they broke up. Sheri met and married her husband but she has confessed throughout the course of their entire marriage she never forgot about EG. When the marriage dissolved Sheri searched for EG and found her, 17 years later, and contacted her. Shortly after getting back in contact with EG (who had a steady boyfriend) Sheri met me. She had told me that the point of finding her was in hopes to rekindle their relationship as she never stopped thinking about her and wanted to pick up where they left off. She was a bit disheartened at knowing EG had a boyfriend and seemingly no desire to get back together with Sheri so she said at the very least she'd have her best friend back.
Enter me. I blew that whole idea out of the water even more.
I first met EG in either very late 2007 or early 2008. Her, Sheri, and I had dinner together at our regular restaurant and I know it was cold out because we were all in sweaters. I do have pictures from that night. EG and I actually hit it off really well and I found her to be an ally in that the same issues Sheri and I were having (trust, friends, etc) were the same issues they had 20 years prior. I was hoping that EG could knock some sense into her and that Sheri would see history repeating itself and change.
Anyways EG and I did get along well for the first few meetings. And then something happened. I don't know if she didn't take much stake in our relationship because of the age difference (since Sheri and I are nearly a whole legal person apart) or realized that she still had feelings for Sheri but the dynamic of the dinners shifted.
We would get together with Sheri's friends, The Twins, who worked with Sheri and EG while they were dating yet had and still have no knowledge of the true nature of their relationship so no direct reference could be made. What would normally be a fun and laugh filled evening started to turn tense as EG and I vyed for Sheri's attention.
Sheri would sit in between us, me on her right, EG on her left. After a few months of get togethers EG would randomly say "Hey Sheri, remember when..." and bring up some memory of some trip they took together or some movie they saw together or anything else to bring them back to the time they were dating. But she'd do it in such a sneaky way that only the three of us would know TRULY what she was referring to while The Twins just assumed it was an innocent "Way Back When" memory.
Hey Sheri, remember when we went horseback riding in California?
Hey Sheri, remember when we went to the Bahamas?
Hey Sheri, remember when we would have crazy sex in your bedroom?
Ok, so the last statement didn't happen but her eyes said it all.
Now all I have ever wanted to do is travel with Sheri. I want to GO places with her and experience new things but we don't because Sheri has children now and responsibilities that of course she didn't have in her twenties. I won't even try to sugarcoat it that this has been an issue with us because I'm young still, this is when I should be travelling. And I don't ask for much, a few days once or twice a year to make time for us and to make memories. But she won't leave her kids.
Woah there Jen..that's a whole 'nother entry.
Getting back on track, EG would open up this dialogue to remenisce of their romantic affairs. And Sheri would feed right into it! Oh yeah and remember when... she would respond and then the next 30 minutes was talking all about how much FUN they had when they went away together and they'd laugh and I'd see in Sheri's eyes that far off look that she was being taken back to that time and place.
Which was all EG's plan.
I would sit across from them at the dinner table and I'd watch her look at Sheri. And this wasn't just a friendly look but a "I had you in your best years" look. And after they'd chuckle and sigh after remembering some crazy and free thing that they did she'd quickly look at me smugly as if to say Ha, I got to do all of these things with her and you can't. You may be here now but remember I was here first.
Now you may think that I'm crazy, and that is a distinct possibility, but I noted in my entry on 3/1/09 that Sheri said to me "I finally realize what you're talking about. She does do that every time we get together."
Their friendship had been strained since they got back in touch with one another. And one fateful dinner last year was the breaking point. We were at dinner, Sheri, The Twins, EG and I and this time EG sat between the Twins rather than next to Sheri so she sat directly across from her. She had this attitude going into the night that she was annoyed by something.
I'm sorry to change up the writing style but I only have 10 minutes left for work and my mind went blank and it has taken me nearly an hour to track this entry down! The following is an entry that I wrote January 25, 2010 about that night:
EG was in rare form Friday night. Right after we all sat down at our table she dug the knife into Sheri-saying she didn't appreciate how she found her, that Friend gave her personal confidential information and yada yada yada.
First of all, bwaaaaaahhh? A dinner with friends is not the time nor the place to bring this up. Sheri looked like she was hit by a 2x4 with a nail in it.
Secondly, I think The Twins and I had our asses pucker a little bit at the uncomfortableness that just enveloped the table. So I'm trying to make side conversations and EG's going "No! She told you this and I don't appreciate it and I'm a big miserable bitch" (she didn't say that last part but she might as well have).
Sheri was completely taken aback and asking if this meant she regretted her seeking her out after all those years and EG said, quite unconvincingly "No-but you could have done it a better way"
Strike #1
Meal continues, EG is getting pissier and pissier. She then starts picking apart how faaarrr she has to drive to meet us for dinner. You know cause Sheri and the twins live about 10 minutes from the restaurant and EG has to drive aaalll the way down from work which is 20 minutes and how they never go up by her and the one time she had us over her house Sheri picked it apart and she doesn't want her back there and bitch bitch moan moan.
And I corrected her-that if she wants she can take my drive which is 45 minutes to an hour on a Friday night-so if she doesn't want to drive, SHE can pick the venue and we'd come to her. Well she didn't like that AT all and started yelling across the table at Sheri about how far she has to drive and I had said "well if you were all willing to drive down by me to give me a break you'd be more than welcome but I know you won't."
EG shot me a look that if I were ice I would have melted, put her hand up in front of my face and said in the snottiest tone "EXCUSE ME, BUT I WAS TALKING"
I was so damned shocked I sat there with my mouth open, catching numerous flies, and stole a look at One Twin who gave me the most uneasy look. Now ya'll know me-I'm not a confrontational person. I clam up so damn quick that I can't say anything. She stops her rant and talks to the twins and I lean into Sheri and whisper "did you see what she just did to me?" Captain Oblivious strikes again because no-she did not. She was baffled that EG acted the way she did but she completely missed it. What in the hell was she looking at? The ceiling? How on earth can you miss that! She reached across the damned table. I got up to go to the bathroom, bidding Sheri to follow me. I.was.FUMING. I paced back and forth in front of the sinks babbling every obsenity I've learned in my 26 years and Sheri was trying to calm me down. She was still shaken up from her earlier comment.
Strike #2
Food comes, we eat, we talk, we laugh. Mood seems to lighten. Super Bitch strikes again!. I don't know what on earth she was hooting and hollering about this time. I stopped paying attention to her about half way through the dinner. But she's saying something and it's of no importance really so I turn and whisper something to Sheri and THE CUNT SNAPS AT ME TO PAY ATTENTION. OH! I said "excuse me, do not snap at me, I'm not a dog" and she goes "well I was talking and you weren't listening"
Maybe because you spew bile from that hole in your face.
Strike #3
3 strikes and you're out you whore. I'm shaking just thinking about this again.
Dinner ends, finally, and Sheri and I walk to our cars. We sit in her car for a few minutes afterwards and she looks like she's about to cry. She was so unbelievably hurt at the things EG said and how she acted. EG has never been a friend to Sheri since she came back into her life. She doesn't call her, she never invites her anywhere, the only time Sheri sees EG is at these dinner things which we only do every couple of months. I've said in the past if Sheri never contacted EG then EG would never contact her. I think she's starting to realize this and she's at the place now where if she never hears from EG again she will just go on living her life. I know how hurt she is though because at the very least she wanted her best friend back and what she got was this soulless witch. She kept saying "maybe she saw your ring and got jealous". And it could be that-sure Sheri and EG traveled when they were together but Sheri was never with her like she is with me. And the fact that we've been together 3 years now is probably a thorn in EG's side-yeah she had her first but I've had her longer. I'm not some little fling that fell apart within a matter of months and we don't think EG can handle that.Whatever, her issue, not ours.
When Sheri was in her early twenties EG and her worked together much like Sheri and I did. She was the first girl Sheri was ever with and they were together for about two years traveling and being free. Through the course of time they started fighting (over the same.exact.things Sheri and I have fought about) and they broke up. Sheri met and married her husband but she has confessed throughout the course of their entire marriage she never forgot about EG. When the marriage dissolved Sheri searched for EG and found her, 17 years later, and contacted her. Shortly after getting back in contact with EG (who had a steady boyfriend) Sheri met me. She had told me that the point of finding her was in hopes to rekindle their relationship as she never stopped thinking about her and wanted to pick up where they left off. She was a bit disheartened at knowing EG had a boyfriend and seemingly no desire to get back together with Sheri so she said at the very least she'd have her best friend back.
Enter me. I blew that whole idea out of the water even more.
I first met EG in either very late 2007 or early 2008. Her, Sheri, and I had dinner together at our regular restaurant and I know it was cold out because we were all in sweaters. I do have pictures from that night. EG and I actually hit it off really well and I found her to be an ally in that the same issues Sheri and I were having (trust, friends, etc) were the same issues they had 20 years prior. I was hoping that EG could knock some sense into her and that Sheri would see history repeating itself and change.
Anyways EG and I did get along well for the first few meetings. And then something happened. I don't know if she didn't take much stake in our relationship because of the age difference (since Sheri and I are nearly a whole legal person apart) or realized that she still had feelings for Sheri but the dynamic of the dinners shifted.
We would get together with Sheri's friends, The Twins, who worked with Sheri and EG while they were dating yet had and still have no knowledge of the true nature of their relationship so no direct reference could be made. What would normally be a fun and laugh filled evening started to turn tense as EG and I vyed for Sheri's attention.
Sheri would sit in between us, me on her right, EG on her left. After a few months of get togethers EG would randomly say "Hey Sheri, remember when..." and bring up some memory of some trip they took together or some movie they saw together or anything else to bring them back to the time they were dating. But she'd do it in such a sneaky way that only the three of us would know TRULY what she was referring to while The Twins just assumed it was an innocent "Way Back When" memory.
Hey Sheri, remember when we went horseback riding in California?
Hey Sheri, remember when we went to the Bahamas?
Hey Sheri, remember when we would have crazy sex in your bedroom?
Ok, so the last statement didn't happen but her eyes said it all.
Now all I have ever wanted to do is travel with Sheri. I want to GO places with her and experience new things but we don't because Sheri has children now and responsibilities that of course she didn't have in her twenties. I won't even try to sugarcoat it that this has been an issue with us because I'm young still, this is when I should be travelling. And I don't ask for much, a few days once or twice a year to make time for us and to make memories. But she won't leave her kids.
Woah there Jen..that's a whole 'nother entry.
Getting back on track, EG would open up this dialogue to remenisce of their romantic affairs. And Sheri would feed right into it! Oh yeah and remember when... she would respond and then the next 30 minutes was talking all about how much FUN they had when they went away together and they'd laugh and I'd see in Sheri's eyes that far off look that she was being taken back to that time and place.
Which was all EG's plan.
I would sit across from them at the dinner table and I'd watch her look at Sheri. And this wasn't just a friendly look but a "I had you in your best years" look. And after they'd chuckle and sigh after remembering some crazy and free thing that they did she'd quickly look at me smugly as if to say Ha, I got to do all of these things with her and you can't. You may be here now but remember I was here first.
Now you may think that I'm crazy, and that is a distinct possibility, but I noted in my entry on 3/1/09 that Sheri said to me "I finally realize what you're talking about. She does do that every time we get together."
Their friendship had been strained since they got back in touch with one another. And one fateful dinner last year was the breaking point. We were at dinner, Sheri, The Twins, EG and I and this time EG sat between the Twins rather than next to Sheri so she sat directly across from her. She had this attitude going into the night that she was annoyed by something.
I'm sorry to change up the writing style but I only have 10 minutes left for work and my mind went blank and it has taken me nearly an hour to track this entry down! The following is an entry that I wrote January 25, 2010 about that night:
EG was in rare form Friday night. Right after we all sat down at our table she dug the knife into Sheri-saying she didn't appreciate how she found her, that Friend gave her personal confidential information and yada yada yada.
First of all, bwaaaaaahhh? A dinner with friends is not the time nor the place to bring this up. Sheri looked like she was hit by a 2x4 with a nail in it.
Secondly, I think The Twins and I had our asses pucker a little bit at the uncomfortableness that just enveloped the table. So I'm trying to make side conversations and EG's going "No! She told you this and I don't appreciate it and I'm a big miserable bitch" (she didn't say that last part but she might as well have).
Sheri was completely taken aback and asking if this meant she regretted her seeking her out after all those years and EG said, quite unconvincingly "No-but you could have done it a better way"
Strike #1
Meal continues, EG is getting pissier and pissier. She then starts picking apart how faaarrr she has to drive to meet us for dinner. You know cause Sheri and the twins live about 10 minutes from the restaurant and EG has to drive aaalll the way down from work which is 20 minutes and how they never go up by her and the one time she had us over her house Sheri picked it apart and she doesn't want her back there and bitch bitch moan moan.
And I corrected her-that if she wants she can take my drive which is 45 minutes to an hour on a Friday night-so if she doesn't want to drive, SHE can pick the venue and we'd come to her. Well she didn't like that AT all and started yelling across the table at Sheri about how far she has to drive and I had said "well if you were all willing to drive down by me to give me a break you'd be more than welcome but I know you won't."
EG shot me a look that if I were ice I would have melted, put her hand up in front of my face and said in the snottiest tone "EXCUSE ME, BUT I WAS TALKING"
I was so damned shocked I sat there with my mouth open, catching numerous flies, and stole a look at One Twin who gave me the most uneasy look. Now ya'll know me-I'm not a confrontational person. I clam up so damn quick that I can't say anything. She stops her rant and talks to the twins and I lean into Sheri and whisper "did you see what she just did to me?" Captain Oblivious strikes again because no-she did not. She was baffled that EG acted the way she did but she completely missed it. What in the hell was she looking at? The ceiling? How on earth can you miss that! She reached across the damned table. I got up to go to the bathroom, bidding Sheri to follow me. I.was.FUMING. I paced back and forth in front of the sinks babbling every obsenity I've learned in my 26 years and Sheri was trying to calm me down. She was still shaken up from her earlier comment.
Strike #2
Food comes, we eat, we talk, we laugh. Mood seems to lighten. Super Bitch strikes again!. I don't know what on earth she was hooting and hollering about this time. I stopped paying attention to her about half way through the dinner. But she's saying something and it's of no importance really so I turn and whisper something to Sheri and THE CUNT SNAPS AT ME TO PAY ATTENTION. OH! I said "excuse me, do not snap at me, I'm not a dog" and she goes "well I was talking and you weren't listening"
Maybe because you spew bile from that hole in your face.
Strike #3
3 strikes and you're out you whore. I'm shaking just thinking about this again.
Dinner ends, finally, and Sheri and I walk to our cars. We sit in her car for a few minutes afterwards and she looks like she's about to cry. She was so unbelievably hurt at the things EG said and how she acted. EG has never been a friend to Sheri since she came back into her life. She doesn't call her, she never invites her anywhere, the only time Sheri sees EG is at these dinner things which we only do every couple of months. I've said in the past if Sheri never contacted EG then EG would never contact her. I think she's starting to realize this and she's at the place now where if she never hears from EG again she will just go on living her life. I know how hurt she is though because at the very least she wanted her best friend back and what she got was this soulless witch. She kept saying "maybe she saw your ring and got jealous". And it could be that-sure Sheri and EG traveled when they were together but Sheri was never with her like she is with me. And the fact that we've been together 3 years now is probably a thorn in EG's side-yeah she had her first but I've had her longer. I'm not some little fling that fell apart within a matter of months and we don't think EG can handle that.Whatever, her issue, not ours.
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